Tome um xarope que isso passa
Às voltas no dabliu-dabliu-dabliu, descobri o texto que podem ler em baixo. O site original é asiático (não percebi bem qual o país) e levanta a questão: como se pode curar o amor? Apesar de calcular que a reacção de grande de vocês vai ser "mas o amor é um sentimento lindo e que dá sentido à vida e que faz os passarinhos cantarem mais alto e as baladas do James Blunt soarem bem e que não se cura assim de qualquer maneira", peço-vos o seguinte exercício: leiam o que se segue com atenção e com frieza. Na minha modesta opinião, este texto - apesar de indubitavelmente exagerado e até amargurado - faz sentido em vários dos pontos que levanta. E quem nunca se curou de um coração palpitante e sofredor que achava que ia durar a vida toda, que atire o primeiro bibelot foleiro oferecido num dia de S. Valentim:
Sexual love, so inequitably praised by the society, in reality is nothing but a serious mental disease, and has numerous negative consequences: from depression and loss of working efficiency to crime and suicide. Despite the wide spreading of this problem, attempts to cure the disease are usually made only in its worst stage. It is known, however, that the best way to avoid illness if prophylaxis.
Despite obvious physiological origins of the problem, psychological approach is extremely important in this case. This article describes several methods that are believed to be helpful to prevent, or cure, love.
Logical analysis method
Weigh pros and contras calmly and objectively. What can love give you? Even if everything goes successfully, the brief euphoria, which is in no way better than alcohol intoxication, will eventually fade out leaving behind controversy and conflicts. If even both you and your spouse behave honorably (and that you can never be sure of!), parting will be a very unpleasant experience nevertheless. To love means to lose. Including the loss of your freedom. Love is a voluntary, and therefore the worst, form of slavery; remember your dignity: do you really want to be a slave? Love will steal your time, nerves, energy, money; you may lose friends, job - and in exchange end up with some memories, and not always pleasant ones. Remember how many evil and crime was done because of love throughout the history; remember all the people whose insanity brought harm to themselves and to others. And this dangerous madness still appeals to you?
Extrapolation method
If, despite all reasons, romantic fantasies are defeating you, and you do hope that "in our case everything will be different" - try to imagine that "different case": day by day, month by month. The novelty of the relationship is gone; most topics worth discussion are depleted. The only left are daily routine and weather, which you could as well talk about with anyone. You discover more and more unpleasant features of your partner (alas, we all have some...) Imagine that close relationship, day by day with the same person, and you will feel great boredom coming over to you.
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Adenda a 5 de Fevereiro às 22h53: ok, só para que não restem dúvidas: my only point é que até aquilo que nós achamos em plena agonia que nunca mais vai passar, eventualmente passa. E esse "passar" só depende de nós. E sim, é possível com muito esforço tomar decisões racionais se assim tiver de ser. O que não quer dizer que eu ache que o conceito de Amor faliu - acho só que tem falhas, e que às vezes é altura de saber jogar com elas. Porque tem de ser, porque a vida continua e porque não podemos hipotecar toda a nossa existência em algo que nos está a fazer mais mal do que bem.
Sexual love, so inequitably praised by the society, in reality is nothing but a serious mental disease, and has numerous negative consequences: from depression and loss of working efficiency to crime and suicide. Despite the wide spreading of this problem, attempts to cure the disease are usually made only in its worst stage. It is known, however, that the best way to avoid illness if prophylaxis.
Despite obvious physiological origins of the problem, psychological approach is extremely important in this case. This article describes several methods that are believed to be helpful to prevent, or cure, love.
Logical analysis method
Weigh pros and contras calmly and objectively. What can love give you? Even if everything goes successfully, the brief euphoria, which is in no way better than alcohol intoxication, will eventually fade out leaving behind controversy and conflicts. If even both you and your spouse behave honorably (and that you can never be sure of!), parting will be a very unpleasant experience nevertheless. To love means to lose. Including the loss of your freedom. Love is a voluntary, and therefore the worst, form of slavery; remember your dignity: do you really want to be a slave? Love will steal your time, nerves, energy, money; you may lose friends, job - and in exchange end up with some memories, and not always pleasant ones. Remember how many evil and crime was done because of love throughout the history; remember all the people whose insanity brought harm to themselves and to others. And this dangerous madness still appeals to you?
Extrapolation method
If, despite all reasons, romantic fantasies are defeating you, and you do hope that "in our case everything will be different" - try to imagine that "different case": day by day, month by month. The novelty of the relationship is gone; most topics worth discussion are depleted. The only left are daily routine and weather, which you could as well talk about with anyone. You discover more and more unpleasant features of your partner (alas, we all have some...) Imagine that close relationship, day by day with the same person, and you will feel great boredom coming over to you.
Para ler mais, clicar aqui.
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Adenda a 5 de Fevereiro às 22h53: ok, só para que não restem dúvidas: my only point é que até aquilo que nós achamos em plena agonia que nunca mais vai passar, eventualmente passa. E esse "passar" só depende de nós. E sim, é possível com muito esforço tomar decisões racionais se assim tiver de ser. O que não quer dizer que eu ache que o conceito de Amor faliu - acho só que tem falhas, e que às vezes é altura de saber jogar com elas. Porque tem de ser, porque a vida continua e porque não podemos hipotecar toda a nossa existência em algo que nos está a fazer mais mal do que bem.
1 Comments:
"Weigh pros and contras calmly and objectively"!Só quem nunca se apaixonou poderia dizer uma imbecilidade destas.
Não li nada relacionado com a cura pó amor!Apenas li frases feitas a maldizer o amor, a desencorajar a paixão!Frases muito conhecidas e aqui reunidas por alguem que deve ser feio como o caraças.
Estou com o Vitor, discordo em absoluto.
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